book preview (part 1)
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1. About this book
A very warm welcome to this unique and interesting book!
If you find yourself sexually attracted to children and are wondering why that is, whether or not there is something seriously wrong with you, if you should be ‘put away’ or how to handle such an issue without abusing children or ruining your own life then this is the book for you. It has been written to address these very questions for this part of the population (which is larger than one may think) to not only come to face this part of their character head-on but also control it and, potentially, use it for good. You may be interested to know that this book is written by a ‘pedophile’ in his mid-thirties who has had such an attraction since he was just 14, who came to fully admit to it – to himself only – and research it on the net at age 19, who sought professional (and sometimes very expensive) help at age 23, who began to make great progress on taking care of the problem at age 28 (after seeing five different therapists) and who even mustered up the courage to speak to both his wife and parents about it at ages 26 and 27, respectively. They have since come to understand it and have even accepted me for who I am. Now the time has come to spread my knowledge and experience on the subject to those who need it the most so they do not suffer as much as I did. This subject is a very sensitive one and one which is very misunderstood, as the current era of mass hysteria over pedophilia clearly shows. This book aims to help close the gap and help those who have involuntarily been burdened by this unfortunate sexual attraction.
Definition of pedophilia and pedophile
For the purposes of this book, pedophilia will be defined under its common, everyday meaning: a sexual attraction (from a teenager or adult) to children including people under the age of 18 for adults. From now on, a pedophile will be referred to as a child lover. This is a term which both myself and many others like me feel does more justice to us. In fact, pedophilia is Greek for “child” and “friendly love” or “friendship” (as stated on... 2. What should I do if I am sexually attracted to children?
First of all, DO NOT PANIC. Take a deep breath, sit back, relax and at least read the rest of this book before coming to any big conclusions about yourself.
Secondly, remind yourself that there is NOTHING seriously wrong with you. You are not at fault as the sexual attraction is involuntary, whether you were born with it or it was somehow induced into you in the past. Therefore, why beat up or blame yourself for something that you cannot help and for which there may be no end to? Remember, that you are only at fault if you choose to ACT on your sexual attraction to children. If you are able to completely control it (more on how to do this later) so you do not harm or abuse children in any way, then that is almost the same as not having the characteristic in the first place. It sounds like stating the obvious to say that people should be judged on what they do as opposed to what they naturally want, think or feel but, unfortunately, this ounce of common sense is not so obvious when it comes to child lovers. This basic principle applies to...
A very warm welcome to this unique and interesting book!
If you find yourself sexually attracted to children and are wondering why that is, whether or not there is something seriously wrong with you, if you should be ‘put away’ or how to handle such an issue without abusing children or ruining your own life then this is the book for you. It has been written to address these very questions for this part of the population (which is larger than one may think) to not only come to face this part of their character head-on but also control it and, potentially, use it for good. You may be interested to know that this book is written by a ‘pedophile’ in his mid-thirties who has had such an attraction since he was just 14, who came to fully admit to it – to himself only – and research it on the net at age 19, who sought professional (and sometimes very expensive) help at age 23, who began to make great progress on taking care of the problem at age 28 (after seeing five different therapists) and who even mustered up the courage to speak to both his wife and parents about it at ages 26 and 27, respectively. They have since come to understand it and have even accepted me for who I am. Now the time has come to spread my knowledge and experience on the subject to those who need it the most so they do not suffer as much as I did. This subject is a very sensitive one and one which is very misunderstood, as the current era of mass hysteria over pedophilia clearly shows. This book aims to help close the gap and help those who have involuntarily been burdened by this unfortunate sexual attraction.
Definition of pedophilia and pedophile
For the purposes of this book, pedophilia will be defined under its common, everyday meaning: a sexual attraction (from a teenager or adult) to children including people under the age of 18 for adults. From now on, a pedophile will be referred to as a child lover. This is a term which both myself and many others like me feel does more justice to us. In fact, pedophilia is Greek for “child” and “friendly love” or “friendship” (as stated on... 2. What should I do if I am sexually attracted to children?
First of all, DO NOT PANIC. Take a deep breath, sit back, relax and at least read the rest of this book before coming to any big conclusions about yourself.
Secondly, remind yourself that there is NOTHING seriously wrong with you. You are not at fault as the sexual attraction is involuntary, whether you were born with it or it was somehow induced into you in the past. Therefore, why beat up or blame yourself for something that you cannot help and for which there may be no end to? Remember, that you are only at fault if you choose to ACT on your sexual attraction to children. If you are able to completely control it (more on how to do this later) so you do not harm or abuse children in any way, then that is almost the same as not having the characteristic in the first place. It sounds like stating the obvious to say that people should be judged on what they do as opposed to what they naturally want, think or feel but, unfortunately, this ounce of common sense is not so obvious when it comes to child lovers. This basic principle applies to...